In time, outsiders will forget we are human and cannot handle everything at once! We need rest also! Time to put the red cape down and just take care of ourselves! Why is it selfish to put ourself first after so long of putting others before ourselves? Don’t others ever look beyond their own needs into someone else’s eyes? Empathy can be a gift and curse for caring individuals! Specially when the well runs dry and you’re scraping bedrock!

I must be lucky. I actually have like 2 or 3 friends who do ask and check in.

So true..everyone can tell you to be strong but never ask if you are ok..

True and i guess thats why i love HUGS SO MUCH. I take it as a sign of caring.

The best part is, you don’t even care about that.

A time of my wedding day …. A very worst and tragedies moment….
That no one says are you okay??? Nor congratulations…
Why?????
They know that I’m not okay……..
I love
You……
More than
You know…..

Women say this wishing that someone would be their support.

Men say this cause they know no one will be there for their support.

Cause men are told to deal with it and man up.

So true would love that , and should apply to both genders .
” Men crying ” is a deal breaker for many women but really shouldn’t be an issue .

Oh they ask, but they dont really care once they get the reason behind it. Before you know, youre listening to something about them!

And the most worst is no one would bother to help you carry through the pain bec they thought you’re strong enough to handle it all.

Part of truly being strong is that you don’t need to be asked if you’re ok, you genuinely don’t care about that. At least that’s how I feel.

This is kind of true but not really.No matter how strong you are the people who truly care about you ask if you are ok and you ask them as well

Yeah they always assume i got it all together. No I dont.. I need a hug, words of encouragement, support just like everybody else.

Its true… Its like people will always assume that u are fine and that there’s no problem or trouble that u can’t solve. But what they don’t understand is that strong people are the most sensitive ones. They are willing to sacrifice for anything just to show that they aren’t weak. Its just sad sometimes because strong people do feel weak and depress and yet they have to console their own selves because no one would dare or care to ask if they are fine..

Amen. Lost my mom and best friend Easter Sunday. I still cry every night when everyone’s asleep. Not once has anyone in my family asked me if I’m alright. Really!!!

This is very true…people have always said I’m strong….but that doesn’t mean that I’m hurting inside and just wish someone would ask how I am and truly want to hear me out.

I’m confronting this a lot because many are scared to ask that from me. Why? It takes time and whether I shook up many, they’ll be better with that than without. I feel thankful with myself, I feel that too from others.

So true, in my part I’m the one always asking if how are my love ones, but they never ask me hows my feeling… I know I insisting my self, I forget how worth my self, don’t worry I ready my self to let you go, and one day you will miss me, and my care for you..

Its funny, I usually do ok…until someone asks me if I am ok (and means it just not a hi how are ya passing in the hallway at work) and then I break.

Sometimes they misunderstood us being too strong. They give a different perception on how we think and do things. We are just humans also like normal people. The only difference is we can stand on our own. Relationship, friends, family or career etc… we do things and handle things the best way we see it. Being strong doesnt mean we are emotionless, most of the time we just hide it.

My ex bff did. The only person in my life who ever saw past my do it myself exterior….will always love him for who he allowed me to be. (Unfortunately he never got it together himself…couldn’t keep a job..pulled over n lost the truck I gave him….never had a place of his own….smh horrible choices which has led to homelessness) makes me sad.

Oh my gosh I KNOW!! I always have to be the strong one. The one who keeps it together. I hold it all in because I feel like I would change someone’s good mood from me complaining about mine. I wish someone would recognize how hard it is to run the family, the home and always be the one people come to for help. I wouldn’t change anything about those things, just wish that when the going gets tough, I would have someone there to recognize I could use help even when I don’t ask, Because I’m too stubborn.

Do u think they bother to ask u that kinda question..I bet they don’t..Apparently seems like u OK & they think that u r OK..But really inside u..No body knows..but for those who closer to u..probably might know how hurt deep inside u..?

noooooo the worst part about being strong is that you know exactly youre not fine but you needto tell them youre fine.and you know there is a problem, just failed to fix it then you sink again and again deep to the sorrow,

It’s not what you call being strong….. it’s what you call ‘being stubborn’. There is a difference. There is no harm being vulnerable in front of someone you trust with your heart. Tell him/her your weaknesses without the fear that just because you think he/she might pity you and think that you are dependent on them after knowing your secrets. Some people actually want you to open up to them. They want to know all the dark alleys inside you so as to make sure that they never let you go back into those alleys ever again. They need to… Read more »