I feel, if that the person isnt also trying , then why should you.
Be with with someone who will try. And fight with you or for you.
But its hard to leave when you love that person so,,

I tried very hard but no luck. I was the only one fighting and that wasn’t fair.

What you allow will continue. I have rarely regretted walking but always regretting staying.

So what do u do if you have been trying hard and history just repeats itself….now it’s 14 years later and u have two kids?????

Yes, a very hard decision. But then you come to realize no matter how hard you try things will never change so you move on to find what you want and deserve.

I left today as well, if both people aren’t willing to do the work then everything falls apart. So sad;-((

I have found it is better to run. There is someone waiting for you…you wont find them if you stay in a hopeless relationship.

Letting go and walking away is probably not the hardest thing to do. Not turning back is.

my question would be did i try hard enough or did i give up to quick bucause it got to hard

Trying harder is essentially equivalent to torturing yourself for awhile longer….

It does take some amount of “work” to be in a relationship, especially if it’s for the long haul. But when the relationship becomes more work than anything else, that’s when it is time to get out. If you no longer can enjoy your time with your significant other and theres constantly fighting and hurt and anxiety, it most likely is just not meant to be. A relationship only works when both people are working at it, always trying to make each other happy.

i struggle with this every minute of every day 🙁

Extremely hard especially when there are kids involved.

I left today. :/ I couldnt try anymore.

What’s harder is when one wants to stay and the other is already out the door.

Walk away.. sometimes it turns out for the best.

Most people would rather take the easy option then work harder sadly

Ive tried my hardest for years. Finally left two weeks ago. Went back to him last week bc he swore everything would change, i believed him. This past weekend he fucked up big time. Im stuck idk what to do. Its hard when youve been with someone for 7years and have two toddlers involved.

Worst part is when she gives you no choice but leaves you for stupid reasons to be single. She met me after work and said she wanted to hang out when all she wanted to do was leave me hang out to dry. Not once this happened but twice it happened. I loved her so much and took her back the first time when she made a mistake. This time I did everything I could to fight and she gave up so easily and I hate myself everyday and it is really hard, but when it happens again, No point… Read more »

The worst part is when the decision is taken away from you & you have no say.

After over 2 years, my therapist was advising me to get out….sometimes “winning” is really “losing”. It was time to move on to save myself and my child.

Going through this process of decisions myself right now. How much do you give and wait before moving on

When you realize what you are worth, the choice becomes that much easier.

Can’t be the only one trying and when you see that you are , it’s time to walk away

The couples that are meant to be, are the ones who go through everything that is meant to tear them apart, and come out even stronger. But if your partner doesn’t care much and gives you hurt and pain, then walk away.