Not a bad concept and I agree BUT you should be wise in your choice of boy/girlfriend,get to know the person you choose before committing yourself so completely(as stated in post). Can you imagine a female being all of those things for the numerous “boyfriends”they have every other month? Just to have the boy/girlfriend leave them for someone else? Being and giving your all to someone can be draining(physically,mentally,and emotionally)…SO make sure the person is worth the effort.

not agreeing with sister & second Mom that’s just GROSS as ALL GET OUT

If you have to be a second mom then you are not with the right person.

I’m sorry but a girlfriend is not a “second mom” :/ awkward!

I don’t know about being “a second mom.” It sounds like such a man needs to remain with his first mother until he is sure he is ready to handle the responsibilities of adult life…LOL!

Not a bad thought on what and how a girlfriend should be towards her man… But what about how a boyfriend should be towards his woman?? Guys like to post that funny MeMe or any picture in relation “how to make a girl happy and it lists 36527363 things and then it says his to make a guy happy and lists 2 things” being that is a joke and if anyone knows the picture I’m talking about yes some of the things on the how to make a girl happy is true. But why is it pinpointed in this specific… Read more »

James, I agree with you. I’ve gotten in debates with people I know wanting the man to do every thing. And I think it’s insanely unfair. However, I have left 2 relationships because of the fact I always went out of my way, did everything, paid everything and rarely got thanked, or had it reciprocated. It was just to much, too lonely, and I would prefer a guy who wants a partner, not a 2nd mom. No way in hell am I fully taking care if someone who won’t take care of himself. Helping do chores and laundry paying sometimes,… Read more »

I was cool with this until I got to “a second mom”. A man should be capable of taking care of himself that he doesn’t need mothering. Besides, that’s his mothers job not his girlfriend or his wife. By acting like his mother, you reduce his status to that of a child and that, in my mind, is not what a man should be when he’s in a relationship.

That puts a lot of pressure on women, don’t you think? His sister, his mom, his baby sitter as well? Oh, give me a break. Relationships are based on respect and trust first of all and once you get that, it becomes so simple! And the “men have ego” bullshit, well yeah… it’s bullshit. Ego it’s ego, we all have it. Plus, this talks about heterosexual relationships; hey, did you know that there are all sorts of relationships out there?!
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beautifully said. but I notice how quick every girl is to respond with a ‘but’ instead of taking it for what it is. I always see stuff like this about what the guy must do and shouldn’t do and all these rules and how to be and ect… all good and everything but very nice to for once… see something like this for a change. trust me girls, any guy worth his salt gets it. why do you think we have the saying ‘happy wife, happy life’? lol. so yes, any good guy will do w/e he can to make… Read more »

This sounded ok…until it said a “second mom”….I don’t want to be any grown man’s second mom!!!

I call that a wife, no wonder why everything’s so difficult..boyfriend no, uh husband yes..

Is there a “boyfriend” version?

Unrealistic,please…where is the boyfriend or husband mean,they need to learn to be a real man,no a kid,a player,or a lier,please the next time be realistic…

Is it just me or is this not only extremely poorly written, but it’s also incredibly derogatory toward men. Like ‘letting men chase after us and letting him know the things he must do and what he must not’. I thought this was a joke at first until I saw so many people agreeing. Oh man, I have so much more respect and love and appreciation for my boyfriend than just ‘letting’ him chase me. I buy him presents, and wine and dine him. It’s a mutual chase and showering of love and affection. This reading is absolutely ridiculous.

Men definitely take advantage of this and forget to acknowledge all the good we do for them.

Too bad for the girls that are all that and more and go unappreciated and taken for granted!

Should be titled ‘being a wife’

And as for the second mom stuff, your mom loves you unconditionally she builds you up when you’re down, comforts you when you’re sad, tries to make sure you’re happy and taken care of….I’m definitely my husbands 2nd mom, I even cook for him and fold his laundry just like his mom used too…..wives are supposed to take the place of a mans mother I think

You mean a wife, right?!

And guys take advantage of this.

Need to explain to some men what being a boyfriend is about!!!

A 2nd mom???

Totally agree…Any woman who acts like the first half of this statement is obviously superficial, materialistic and manipulative …Unfortunately the men we love, desire and adore gravitate to these kind of women…and the real girlfriend material who believes and respects the second half of this statement is left holding back her tears but her head up high

This is very true, BUT! It goes both ways. If the girl does all this and the guy doesn’t, then it’s pointless and a waste of her time. And a lot of people are selfish and don’t care or understand how it should work.