I’ve been there. Loosing yourself to a relationship is the slowest form of death out there. Especially if you don’t notice it happening. Fortunately, I discovered it (after far too long) and corrected the problem. I’m going to be me, no matter what. The right people will be ok with it, and the others, well, I don’t have to worry about them.

Yup. Hope they realize it. And the relationship wasn’t over.. cheating and thinking you’d get away with it.. karma just sits and waits. til you’re comfortable doing it and bam!

Then they lead you along and make you second guess everything you do, lose confidence, self worth and general happiness. It takes some time to get back to even keel.

oh yeh…but that’s your own choise. You only loose yourself when you are afraid to loose the other and give up on yourself hoping to keep him or her….

As well as myself lost every thing. Don’t think I can ever get over this hurt. I thought i was a strong person

THAT’S FOR SURE!!! I gave so much in my marriage that I lost myself completely. I lived my life trying to please him and make him love me. I was young then but almost died trying to make it work but was never meant to be. Spent 14yrs.

Because sometimes, we tend to ignore the love of our lives and we run out of time to tell them how we really feel until they were no longer with us. Its sad because these are real thoughts, real dreams, real love but was never relayed to the person it should have been spoke with because we and I no longer have the right to say it in front of them. We can always think of them, we can always loved them and it’s just only us thats loving because they’re already in love with someone else. Sad truth

Isn’t that the whole point of a ‘relationship’? You each lose the self, to become one. You think of your partner before acting as a ‘self’ with no one to be responsible to or for. Matter of fact, if it’s a parent child relationship this is even more important to forget the ‘self’ as a parent. Your needs now come second. You are not a self, you are in a relationship. This is a stupid quote.

Dont give u vil recover soon …dont give up for yourself…….just keep moving on ……n never let anyone to breakup ur spirit ….n BELIEVE in your self

yes, never loose ourselves, it can be devastating, Just need God strength, patience and love to restore back who we are and what we value of !!!! God loves us who we are, nobody is perfect in God’s eye !!! Put the unpleasant past behind us , its tough but time will heal. The devil always manipulate our minds and soul when we are weak, so suck it up and look forward !!! We got other people on this earth who still love and care for us !!! Amen !!! ?????

Yes don’t loose yourself through the process of finding love, a good man/woman is out there for. Can’t just share the experience

So true! I give my entire self to my relationships. I think this only works if both people do the same. Lost myself in a couple of relationships and it’s devastating when it ends.

I interpret this Statement as: Although it hurts when you Break up/Divorce, it hurts more when you lose who “YOU” are in the Relationship. The Sacrifices that you do or did to make the Relationship work and in doing so, becoming someone who is not true to yourself and not being the person that you once was and Struggling to find that “Person” that made you who you are. Basically being able to be True to one’s self and not losing your Worth in that Relationship…..Something like that..?

Yeah its true!! Losing someone whom you dedicated all your life, u picture yourself with him till the end then you lost him!!! Its devastating!

You don’t know how to start again, you feel lost, scared, losing yourself because you gave it all. It’s takes months, years to heal the pain. But you don’t have choice just to move forward

Its true thats why its good to take it one day at a time and you start seeing the flaws. If you make it through the storms then maybe you can make it b it takes about a year and some god bless those that make it as for me im good man love life and respect to the fullest but nomore humble pie people just start talking to you disrespectful but they dont see it and enough is enough i could be cold to but thats not my nature and takes my fun side away but ima just stay… Read more »

Forgetting who you once were and letting a relationship consume you can have deviating effects when the relationship ends…

Definatly true for me!!! We should never loose ourselves in the process of finding love……! Stay who you are, and start out how you plan or intend to be!!!

In all things, give thanks… Trust God for the healing, dust yourself, forgive them and move on! Those who cheat, lie and eventually hurt u, don’t deserve u. It only shows how weak they are. True love wl find u… Hmm.

My heart continues to break as I watch you give everything you have to someone who doesn’t deserve you. …you are stronger than you think, stand up, respect yourself and walk away. .she’s destroying you in every way. ..it’s NOT OK

Losing urself by dedicating ur 110% to someone who always cheated, lied nd mistreated u…. Losing to someone fr whom u were always there even wen their true love nd bestest frnds left them…nd wen u needed them u always were never on their list.. Losing to someone whom u considered exclusive while they were busy wid soo many others.. Losing to someone who had a past that they continued in present nd u had to suffer.. Losing to someone whom u told everything but they told u things in tits nd bits Losing to someone whom u were committed… Read more »

I’m still waiting for it to stop hurting. I’m over him, but not what he did. One day, I’ll read his first name and my breathing will remain the same

“We all want to fall in love. Why? Because that experience makes us feel completely alive. Where every sense is heightened, every emotion is magnified, our everyday reality is shattered and we are flying into the heavens. It may only last a moment, and hour, an afternoon. But that doesn’t diminish its value. Because we are left with memories that we treasure for the rest of our lives.”

My ex wife for 5 years had made me feel like nothing but a failure and that I was a terrible person, thank god and my son that I lived through it and she can believe what she wants I know who I am and I’m certainly not the person she tried to create!!!

After my loss I was in state of shock. It’s taken me a long time to somewhat get back to where I was. Time heals wounds and I’m hopeful that I will recover fully. It was one lesson in my life that was well learned. It will never happen to me ever again.

Some relationships are just lessons that teaches you how to grow you might feel hurt yes when you look back an how much you’ve put in it but there is also a saying God knows best and some mistakes should be counted has blessings.