It takes two people to make a relationship. If he does not text, call, and makes no dates. You feel you are the only one working to make it happen it’s time to concentrate on yourself and let him go!!!!

Yeah right and then there are the women that love the man’s pursuit and then reciprocate but when they think they have their hooks securely embedded they back off and become complacent and ignore you and think you will be there at their beck n call.
That trully get tiring to the point of saying Hasta la vista Baby.

I’m with Paul Pfeil…and I believe that only a woman can craft this post lol, that’s ok…but it doesn’t seem fair but he’ll…it’s Facebook. I’ve had the worst of women or the lesser of evils, idk what to make of it, but I haven’t had a chance at love until I met my girlfriend…and “she walked into my life”. I don’t understand why shld it matter when we all live on Earth this is inhabited by both male and female species…only the human female struggles with keeping her mate…go figure… evolution did lol. Yes it’s true that whatever a man… Read more »

Good girls get mad when the good guys chase the bad girls & good guys get mad when good girls chase the bad boys…WHY?… The answer is in the concept of convenience, and not quality or integrity. They cheat themselves before they cheat on their lowly mate 🙂 discrediting themselves and settling for less and not reaching for what they deserve…to spare themselves of any inch of discomfort or disappointment…? Yup 🙂 But later ask the questions abt “where do all the good ones s go?” or why can’t I keep a man or girl? Am I going to die… Read more »

Um, if a woman doesn’t pursue me at all, I will assume she isn’t interested so I will not pursue back. I already have half the women I know wanting to think I’m in love with them just because I treat them as well as anyone else, male or female. If I pursued at all they would be completely intolerable.

If thats true tell me this… why is it that when a man pursues a women, she loses interest?, the truth is women pursue men because women like to chase, it is a scientific fact that women are more attracted to men who’s feelings are unclear, if a dude is chasing you, then you know exactly how he feels there is no mystery, women like mystery, trying to figure things out

However some of this is true, a guy should be the one to initiate the contact set a date, get her number etc.

This hits home too much. So sad to never be a priority, always just an option. But i allow it and it Goes against everything I believe. I need to listen to myself, find myself again, love myself, find those that also love me and want me around. But at this rate the wall may never come back down…. Ever. What’s a girl to do?? 🙁

If You call and he doesn’t answer, leave a msg but don’t hear back for days, or txt and it goes unanswered.. well then, he’s probably not into you. If a guy is interested in you he will get back to you sooner rather than later. If he doesn’t respond at all it could be his way of letting you know that he’s Not interested.

I’ve taste that before… Chasing and beg bcoz all my heart say do it…. It is too hard to hit with the reality…. I need to bury this what I feel… Fast before what I feel finish me.. ???

Not true at all.

A man needs to know he is being chased. We like being chased. We don’t like chasing. We only chase those who are giving us good feedback on our chase. And that’s the same for women. They’ll chase but if they aren’t getting good feedback then they move on.

This goes both ways.

I believe it should be equal if you love someone and they love you too, you both have to look for your each other and show love. Depending entirely on your partner to do it all is the most unfortunate way to go about it.

I’m not into you… Does that make me a bad guy? I asked for friendship, made it clear, and yet you wanted more… Now you’re telling everyone how I did you wrong… argghh..

I’m pretty sure women are able to pursue a man too. Not sure why we scream equality for women and then expect men to be the only ones who go after what they want.

Tired of hearing equality bs…men and women are different…people are different…but generally speaking, this is true! When someone is interested, you know! If you don’t, maybe you need to reevaluate ha!

In my experience, when women pursue men, they become lazy and apathetic. There’s nothing wrong with women taking the initiative to show interest or to talk a man they’re interested in, but I will not ask a man out on a date or pursue him. Of course the interest needs to be mutual otherwise the man will stop pursuing.

I have never had someone make me a priority but if I did I would be grateful. Maybe I try too hard and make it too easy for the other person that they don’t feel they have to try. Whatever the reason not all women like jerks.

Idk if its a Virgo thing or a personal thing. But I take things slow, I want to know who you are, looks mean hardly anything to me anymore. Don’t get too caught up in these quotes and memes on fb that make you impulsively assume that that is what’s going on. Take your time, ask questions, understand them personally and don’t assume things. If you want to pursue, then pursue, gender doesn’t really matter. I personally feel its something that just comes to us as we get to know each other, it doesn’t take any effort, just a giving… Read more »

Yes and no. “Chasing” a woman almost always put her to an advantage in the courtship. If puts her in a higher “social status”. And now makes it even more difficult to build attraction. A man on his mission and purpose simply doesn’t have time to play all of those games. At the end of the day it’s about two mature people who have a mutual high level of interest in one another. Everything else will handle itself.

Relationships are based on love and mostly friendship. It takes two to make it work and I believe it’s okay for a woman to give some equal effort…everyone is different and everyones heart works differently….love is a two way street…just always be true to you…if you want to text then text…if they are bothered by that well then they aren’t your best friend and match.

Exactly that is right…. so why in this culture in U.S. man like that? Women here go after the man???? I believe it must be mutual, if he show interest and you want him great, the same way if she show interest and he want you great. It is a mutual desire!

Some guys are just really bad at the traditional “pursuing.” They may have the woman as a high priority, they may be an excellent partner if given the chance, but like many other people, have a social disorder — in this case one that makes it difficult to make non-platonic intentions known to someone they’re interested in. You don’t know what a person is going through on the inside; it’s unwise to assume you know based on stereotypes and sexist customs.

I dont see this as correct. Sometimes women make it hard for the man to read any signs that shes interested. So some men just dont think they have a chance. Some men are also very shy, and it takes a bold women to stand up and say hey. Some men have been really hurt. There is nothing wrong with a women pursuing a man, and that doesnt mean he dont want her.

Some of us men have been hurt so incredibly bad that though we give you a portion of ourselves, you need to proove you won’t just walk away. Based on my past experience, the woman cheats, and flirts and talks to other men, then when they walk away for the bad boy and he dumps her then she comes back thinking she still has trust.