Sorry but my hubby and I have been married for 25 years and going to bed angry has been a great thing sometimes because each person can get some rest, cool down and not say crap they regret in the morning!

Disagree,
This post got it all wrong.

If there is an issue an you personally feel the need to fight.

You fight the problem, the issue or the behavior.
You don’t fight the person & you don’t devalue & belittle them to get them to change.
You make them your friend & you fight the problem, issue or behavior together.

Many women like to fight the person forgetting that you destroy the person in the process.
When you need to love, support & help the person.

Who tf else am i supposed to vent to?? These b*tches that pretend to be my friend? Or am i supposed to bottle me feelings and then explode?
Ill stick to venting to my mom.

And ill continue drinking my wine. Thankyou very much!!

Healthy fight , clear honest fight , no violence , no lies and abusive like calling names but just to clear the air and get it over and done with without breaking up

Yeah. These are the rules we follow. Me and my Lady.
Real relationship has it’s set of rules in which the couples had agreed upon. Breaking 1 rule leads to a heartache. Cherish every moment and never feel down whenever you can’t achieve 1 of these rules. Always remember your loved one is always there to help you do so ??
#RealExperiences

70% gold. Your mum and best friend are vital. So are his. Drinking is irrelevant unless it’s a problem. How can you resolve it unless you talk about it? Once resolved, don’t talk about it.

I always vent to my best friend and mom. Mainly best friend because my mom would seriously kill him if hes not already dead. As far as going to bed angry I just wake up in a bad mood. I HATE HATE HATE LIES and lately it seems like that’s all that comes out. Don’t get me wrong im working on changing myself so today I figured I’d take a day out with my toddler. ?

Hard to have been in an ldr and when you’re his best friend for a year and he tells you he loves you forever and no one else will replace you, and within the last three weeks you’re sweet to each other and lovey and kinky with each other on the phone. All the while he’s chatting up a new lady near by and 3 days ago says he’s going to date her.

yup never in public and never vent to family, friends or FB – go make a fake account with 0 friends vent there then delete that shit cause you are talking to yourself..sometimes just getting if off your chest is all you need. March makes 20 yrs for us.

I wouldn’t say don’t drink. Alcohol is not always a problem for everyone

In my one year of marriage some of these have made THE difference!

“Fighting” Fair Its all about being a respectful, mature, adult 1. When disagreements arise, confront them immediately-not days, weeks, months, later 2. Use your indoor voice. 3. Dont interrupt; speak one at a time 4. Express emotions with words (“I feel…” “…makes me feel…”) and not actions, like shouting, stomping, slamming doors etc. 5. Inquire where the conversation started conflict, and why 6. Request clarification and keep an open mind. Perhaps you misheard, misinterpreted, misunderstood? Maybe your partner misspoke, misinterpreted etc 7. If its a miscommunication: apologize, correct, move forward 8. If its a legitimate disagreement: share your reasons why… Read more »

Eliminate “always” and “never”. I’ve been saying that for years

Only one rule, you got one life don’t spend it fighting , spend it finding more ways to love each other

I really need to remember these…and live them. Good stuff.