Selfish vs Generous and my advice is get a man that not selfish to love you because women are obviously doing things for him and related to him but man go to work provide money forget all the love story.

Absolutely the truth! And really it’s true for any person, male or female regardless who is doing the talking and the listening.

Hey everyone! I’m sure not many will see this, but I’m wanting to do something special for Valentines day for my boyfriend. All i ask is you take a couple minutes to write this down with your location, take a picture and send it to me by message or tag me in the comment!! “Brendan, DeAnnas love for you stretches so far it has reached _INSERT YOUR LOCATION_” It could be a picture of your backyard, a nice view, with your dog, whatever! If you do this for me I will appreciate it forever, and if you decide you want… Read more »

Listening isnt anything without understanding. People can listen all they want and still not be empathetic or sympathetic to your needs and wants. Valuing emotional awareness and understanding is key.

So so so true…n i think its a basic need for every happy relationship to understand each other n keep listening to each other’s feelings, ups n downs, lows n highs..it makes the bond even more stronger n all the difficulties of life turns into solutions.. Salman Ul Haq Haqqi Alhumdulillah um very blessed to have eUu in my life..n thank eUu for understanding me n it makes me feel even more comfortable n it brings more respect for eu in my heart… May Almighty Allah save our relationship from every evil eye…Ameen ya rabul alamin… ?

I like this quote but I wish the author of this quote would give seminar/conference to the men. It might help some men and save some hearts aches. Just my opinion!

Ive met 2 men who really listen to me when i talk and for me is almost number 1 in relation. I notice at once does a man listen to me, he does when he look my eyes while i talk and share his minds and opinions. Is same with women, if they dont listen at me i stop talking. Theres no any connection then.

I must feel free to express my thoughts I need a man to listen to me no not a boy getting angry and go on the silent treatment. We all must be Abe to communicate without fear our partner will get mad

And in every time she gets angry with no reasons at all, She will tell you every fucking painful words!!!!! Like comparing me to her past, telling me I’m not enough for her, that she was looking for something that she can’t find in me. Every time i reach out to fix things and trying hard to make the relationship work, she will just keep on pushing you away.

Too bad a lot of men act on their anger to you having different feelings than them. Results in yelling at you, and cussing. Which, in turn, makes you close off to that person and eventually not want anything to do with them because they are irrational, anger-driven man children. I’ve never found a man who can resolve conflict peacefully and without yelling. Makes your mind wander a little bit.

This is so true….I will shut down if I feel like I’m not being heard….or understood….in my mind, I’m like why even say something….it’s not heard..so why bother? After awhile, it becomes second nature, because you know what to expect.

This is So true. Especially after I got physically, mentally, emotionally abused before I am so afraid to express my feeling because I am so scared that they might get mad at me. I don’t ask much all I need is an emotional support. And I will provide the same.

Dang this made me sad. You can tell by people actions if they want to listen and actually care to hear u out. Any negativity in ur actions or words can make someone shut down and never speak about feelings again because that only proved to them that no matter how they try no one will understand and want to take the time to hear and comfort u.

Real men (not boys) and real women (not girls) don’t NEED admiration; they know they are more than a little ego needing constant recognition to feel secure. They don’t NEED approval; they approve of themselves and seek approval only from God. They don’t even NEED appreciation; they do what is right, what is kind, and what is needed in the moment out of a generous nature. These things are nice to have; they make a bond stronger, enhance and lengthen a relationship greatly–but they ARE NOT needs of those that are true adult souls.

I made this mistake numerous times in my last relationship. I believe this is the reason my girlfriend eventually left. It’s very important to be heard when communicating anything, especially feelings. Don’t be like me, save what you have by not ignoring this.

What about when she’s venting about the same thing (exes, family, work) and chooses not to do anything about it or let it go? Even after offering suggestions and encouragement to let it go, it’s still the same thing. How much is a person expected to be there when their partner chooses to live in the past and be a victim?

That is true, I tend to shut down when I can’t openly express my feelings with my partner. Both people in a relationship should be able to express their feelings openly. Being able to do that is only helping your relationship and yourselves as individuals because we are constantly growing/learning.

How do you let someone in and believe it’s okay to let someone in behind your wall when everyone who has been behind it, doesn’t stay long enough to make you feel like it’s okay to show everyone?

It’s obvious this quote came from a man. It’s a gift? I think it’s my right to be heard and have my opinion respected. A man doesn’t gift me that. If woman is with a man and he can’t hear and respect her opion… get the hell out of that relationship! Seriously people…can you not see that this kind of thinking is what keeps us stuck? No man gifts you the right to be heard and respected. That is simply your right. The choice you have is whether or not to be in relationship with people who cannot respect you.

So very true..if you care for someone listening to them especially their feelings is one of the most important thing you can do..shows respect for their feelings and that you truly care for them in whole…does need to go both ways though to be successful