That is call Love, You are in a state of being so so so in love with that person though you heard from someone that he or she was cheating or doing something inappropriate,your mind still saying, “no,I shouldn’t believe them because I know him before anyone else” but are you sure you know him/her exactly? Lets take into reality,you hope,you love and then you lost,. You see all the evidences,you are in hatred, you cry,you digest all those sad things happen but once you see the person your heart beats,it splashes away like there was nothing happen and the… Read more »

Yes I am. And people who know me know that I am generally a good person, I just don’t know why I can’t find my equal I always get the ones that don’t want to be or just can’t find it in themselves to be loyal to a man that loves them with all their heart and soul. Because when I go in for love I go all the way. And still give doubt when even her friends are telling me she is no good. I belong to the lonely hearts club

Never trust anyone who says they are this kind of people.
In the face of someone who really is, they are the first to give up

NO. Bad idea. Friendship and love should not be habitually painful. If it is always difficult to be in a relationship, it is time to go.

Haha ako yun .to me ,am not perfect
Who I am to judge ? But if I know how to forget and forgive, I also know how to distance and detach. God forbid I also know how to get even when pushed to the wall.

I for one will never hold on to a lie, u hurt me i leave you that’s it! I only forgive mistakes and sincere apologies otherwise i protect my heart so much to hurt it.

Well it depends….multiple times would be hard to overcome! Everyone has flaws and drawbacks…just a matter of how forgiving you or they are towards the other!

Cause there is. But you can’t let abuse continue on and keep hurting yourself. What you tolerate will continue and become the norm. Don’t let it continue, and know that no matter how bad, there is always another way.

Ya me too. You have to let that go girl. You and kids come first. Trust me after all I went through. It dosnet stop. They will keep hurting you till you make them stop. Much love sissy.

Why does this use the word ‘unfortunately’? The gift to be able to see the good after betrayal of anykind is something this world needs more of. It’s the backbone of forgiveness and the first step to freedom.

Couldn’t agree more. No matter how dark their heart is you want to believe that there is goodness in them. But it’s just not true. 🙁 so watch with your eyes and open your mind to the truth because your heart will always lead you astray.

Being hurt and still seeing the good in a person is an indication of your own worthy loving heart and that is a good thing. An admirable thing. What is NOT good is sticking around to get hurt over and over. It is perfectly fine to tell someone they are better than they know but yet not good enough for you. That you hope for the best for them but cannot have them in your life.

Yep and proud of it! I always search for the good in every single person, in every single moment and every single thing. I’m a positive person and I think everyone is born good. People generally (not always, it’s true!) act bad because they been hurted in past, not because they are truly bad people.

Blessing and a curse. Stood by her side to try and help her w/ her issues. Sometimes she was receptive others not so much. In the end she chose her ways and that spelled the end for us. Just couldn’t get it. Selfish and blind to what could’ve helped us both.

So true. I still have love for some one like this. My head says no but my heart says yes. It is what it is. That stupid thing called love

I know there is a good side to her, no, a great side to her. But, unfortunately I got to see the very worst side. Still, I have no idea why, or what I did wrong. If we want to learn from relationships..shouldn’t both sides be able to be adults. I mean at least tell me why…that’s all I ask. Sadly, I will most likely never know. All I did was shop her kindness, respect & love. I guess it’s true “nice guys finish last “!!

No, I’m smart enough to realize that if I continue to believe there’s a “good” side to anyone, I will just continue to let them screw me over! Don’t let being naive continue to blind you from the truth – people are NOT basically good!

Yes. I spent 7 years in a miserable relationship with somebody who was very hurtful. But one reason I held on for as long as I did, was because I kept mistakenly thinking that things would get better. Nope, never did. When I finally realized that having a lifetime of misery wasn’t all that great, I finally snapped and left. Divorce is still in the process.

That’s a very difficult problem to have , and can only be dealt with once you get to the point in your Life were you say , I’m tired of being unhappy , and take a step forward in your Life to Finally be Happy

There just might be some good inside of every person, but I sure as hell ain’t sticking around to find out. I gotta love and respect me first. You teach people how to treat you by what you accept.

Yeah, guilty. I say, “I’m very Ann Frank.” Because, “In spite of everything, I still believe people are really good at heart.” I have struggled with this. Some people don’t deserve your ‘open arms’.

Isn’t that called passive agressive? Anyone man or woman who says they can forgive completely and forget, is full of shit. Forgive, then part ways. But, you must truly forgive. Otherwise, its keep your friends close, and enemies even closer. Not a good, nor peaceful, way to live life.

Nope. I only give people a second chance and if they fail, I’m through. Life is too short to be surrounded by toxic people.

Patience is a good virtue, but don’t put yourself in such a situation if your mind tells you this person is no longer good for you. Be assertive, and don’t be emotionally dependent. Life has much more bounties and blessings to pursue than being attached to a non-worthy person. And remember, like drugs, just say no.