So very very true,you put everything into defending them and are in that moment blind to the abuse both physical and emotional.

Very true. My friends told me and told me my ex would never change. Was married for 23 years and we have 4 boys. He would rather spend time with her and her 2 girls instead of our 15 year old son. I don’t know what to tell my son.

We must also understand that ln life change is constant. Somethings are better experienced before we learn. I just learnt. Painful but it will pass.

Very true I’ve been there myself .but I refuse to give up on love or finding someone who will love me for me. Its a hard painful lesson but everyone has been through it .if life knocks u down 7 times make sure u get up 8 🙂

I know someone who continually defends someone who is a piece of shit, and they know it too deep down. Guess it’s denial

At the end of the day, they were telling the truth. There were no hidden agendas or jealousy involved. They all didn’t even know each other. I have never been with anyone that got such shitty reviews like that-nothing decent was said period. Each person had my best interest at hand thou and I appreciate it now. Welp!!! I should have listened!!! Sorry guys!!!! ? #embarrassment no loss w/mr….nvmd

Listening to someone bad mouthing my bf, I actually started to believe it… And questioning him constantly. Ultimately diving us apart. I haven’t talked to the Bitch since. I lost the love of my life because I listened to a jealous drunk!!!

I had that happen to me at the Mt. Pleasant cinema about 5 years ago. I stuck up for this grade school classmate for years then one day, I said “Hey. What’s up?” to him and he was just like “Just on my way to work” in a rather rude and blow-offish manner. Sometimes when you stick your neck out for disadvantaged people, some of them might just chop off your head when you least expect it. Sad, but true.

People on the outside can see clearly what’s going on. The one IN the relationship is usually blinded by ‘love’. My mother found out the hard way. Had she listened to EVERYONE, she wouldn’t have married her ex husband and would have been spared a huge headache.

Very true! But at least you find out for yourself instead of just taking someone’s word for it. We are all damaged. Maybe one day you can be the person that that other person changes his/her ways for. We have to give everyone a fair shot even if we get hurt in the process.

some people turn out to be what others have said because they were pushed to that extent and thought sod it if that’s what ya really think then i might as well be. people need to concentrate on their own lives before melding in someone elses. loads of people lose people they love because of outside influence

Maybe they’re not and maybe you’ve decided to believe the script given to you because it fit nicely with what you were biased to believe. The fact that that person was brought up to begin with by others shows a certain deleterious action against the relationship that forms microagressions towards its continued health and possibly the individual depending upon how that conversation was framed.

100000% true …. I m very disappointed from someone…. So that’s why I agree….. he’s totally different when I m not around him…his behave like a stranger… ????

yes indeed, sometimes it’s very easy to defend people because we are blinded by the feelings that we have for that person, but reality is, other people can see better what our blinded eyes can see. What’s more disappointing is, when that person tells you that he won’t do this and that, won’t be like this and that and you’ll just be surprised, he just turned out to be that person he said, he would never be.

Absolutely. Years after the relationship is over and you’ve healed, the pain lingers and never truly good away.

Yes true…when trust got broke its really hard to trust again…to give trust again coz u’re afraid to get hurt again and again…

Definitely true, being so defensive for that person is being so blind in a reality,trying to convince everyone that he / she is not what they think about, but in the end that you found out that those people around you were true, so much pain & disappointment you’ve felt and so difficult to admit the reality of it.

This is the EXACT part of what i said to my ex before blocking him… It never stops hurting and you keep blaming yourself for an extreme stupidity

Even sadder when you go as far as introduce her to your mom, and your mom seen through instantly, time later she was so right… ?

So true. So sad. But healing only comes when you realize for yourself, not from what others say. Inner strength will prevail.

It happened exactly to me. I refused to listen to his friends and defended him for nearly 3 years. And now he turned out to be like exactly what his friends warned me. Now i suffer both the pain and disappointment.

So true and so sad!!! Love blinds you until they do something so atrocious that it’s like being kicked in the stomach the same time you’re clubbed over the head! I can forgive because of Gods grace, but I can never forget or trust them again no matter what!

Emotion blinds people. Sometimes when you let someone inside your “guard” you place your trust in them and most of the pain of breakup comes from the realization and disbelief that you loved the enemy

Its devastating and it really breaks you that someone can actually be heartless to you. It makes you weary to trust anyone again. But there’s still honest decent good people out there and I am blessed because I get to call that person the love of my life now. Some doors close Bcuz they should of never been opened but they close for good reason, to let others open and let love in…

Not always coin falls in our favour….. that must be a painful situation , no words define that feeling……I m shocked and a question arise in my mind “Is this the True Love”? :-/ feels very bad… :-/