Ex friend yes she did, showed me that 98% of pretty women are gold diggers. If you got the money you can have the woman. They are all out to find a man to take care of them. I wasn’t good enough for her cause I didn’t make enough.

They changed how I look at things/people and how I am. I had always been free and open but now there’s just something I hold back.. Trust or love I just don’t give it away anymore

That made me realize that I was too nice and tolerated too much shit. I’m still nice but no longer a pushover. Unfortunately the one who was the best one who had the qualities of a truly good man passed away.

Even though it was difficult for us to break up and I really didn’t want to ,that he was pretty amazing that I feel lucky to have been in a relationship with him he could really show the last few guys I’ve dated a thing Or two of how True gentleman and treat a lady.

YES I remember my ex just enough to thank him for the grand favor he did me when he left the house. I was blessed then and I am blessed still…

Amen He had the power to make me or break me. My ignorance of never had been on the receiving side of love. I screwed up the one God gave me. I haven’t really been with anyone since. I was 17 now I’m 33. When God gives them to you hold on for dear life because they are your life if you lose it or are stuck on stupid and I was inexperienced. I’d never been loved I return. I didn’t know how important it is to to how to receive love just as much as you give. I pray… Read more »

Yes. Agreed.
I learned how sneaky, desperate & deceitful the nicest person could be while battling addiction yet how painful, scary & sad at the same time seeing someone you love & respect, take that path to self destruction.
AND I’ve learned a LOT about psychology: mental illnesses, abuse, trauma, PTSD, recovery from abuse, codependency, enabling parents, and of course in the path to discovering all of that I learned how & what causes it all.
Maybe this was all lessons learned but wish it didn’t always take so much heartache?

Gary and I have both come from abusive relationships. We hit a couple of rough patches early in our relationship, but we got through it because of we both believed that past hurts shouldn’t color our chance for a good one. Now we have what we both wanted all our lives and we couldn’t be happier. The point is that you don’t throw in the towel just because someone accidently pushes the wrong button. Take the time and make the effort to work for the relationship you want. Communication is #1, always.

Yep….i don’t half step though ?. I made sure to learn from each one, or at least take some good away from it. Everyone is different, so you can’t figure out one female and think you have the Rosetta Stone for decoding all of them. And real talk, its more about understanding yourself than understanding them, because you can’t change people. You can however, change the way you respond to people.

Mine still legally married to me still stay with me but cheated on me with another woman calling her his wife and planning to marry her and bring her over here from Vietnam he’s 44 and she’s 21 what a sick individual!??

My current ex. 4 years and finally found out he has no idea what he wants. Even after I’ve been very clear the whole time that I was all in
. Going through changes now. I am broken but I will be better and stronger for it later… I just wish later would come so I don’t have to suffer as long ..

Absolutely and it sucks lol. It would be alright if they changed us for the better, but in my case it just made me guarded. A guarded heart can’t pursue true happiness.

Amen. I definitely gained more than what I have lost but I can’t bring myself to go into a new relationship without having my guards up and it sucks. Mainly for the other person…

And that traumatized you forever.

Very true, not only did she wreck it and lose a good guy in the process but she also threw a loving father figure away from her child’s life!

Feeling bitter and hated him for cheating on me but lesson learned and he made me stronger for letting me go..now his loss and regret what he have done…He thought he can find better than me but he ended up of worst…

This may be true for most, but I met my fiancé at a pretty young age (14), so I never had to go through the whole “heart torn to shreds” lesson. I thank him for that.

Agree
When u give much importance and make ur availbility for him/her all time
Then it would happen

Yeah… he completely changed me. And after all, I really thank him! Because now I am so much stronger and better. I learned from the mistakes that I made and now I am with my perfect partner 😀 And I have changed for the good. I am so happy and know that everything happens for a reason <3

That’s true ..I was in love with one girl and she let me believed that…Never trust a girl who speak sweetly to you always and who shows a lot love .
Still waiting for my better half.

I never realized how better off i would be and am till my ex cheated on me left me to find love and be loved by the love of my life!! I can thank God i got a wonderful second chance not because what i did but because i was let go by someone who never loved me now i have my one true love and truly know what love is and how it feels to be loved repected adored by my amazing guy!!!!!

Im actually in the healing process right now. After 2 and a half years and engaged, i found her hopping out of another man’s car. Worst part is i think its her manager. But fuck it… It hurts, im crying but im good looking.

AGREED!!! unfortunately made me bitter – fear of rejection and being hurt again has just intensified it all – after trying to trust only to be let down again my wall has reach new impenetrable heights

An ex helped me learn how emotionally resilient I am.

An ex helped me understand what a bad relationship is.

An ex prepared me for a rewarding, meaningful, deep love based on trust and respect for one another.

Yes, an ex did change me, but never forget this, diamonds are forged under intense pressure.