Exactly true & they can be self-centered; selfish; boastful; living double life & he or she can’t make right decisions can’t have two LOVE & like to make things complicated to make others miserable. Whomever ends up in ER for heart attack will find out what her or his LOVE have done. Cheating Heartless Fool

It’s not love! It’s stupidity.. Cause if you can’t love and take care of yourself, how can you take care of others or love them?? It might sound so good and sacrificial, but this kinda relationship always ends and someone will get hurt much more than other..

For me happiness is not for him or her . first love yourself unconditionally because true love is in you and don’t relay with anyone else .

I think Sparks realized this too late. He’s divorced now.

Indeed….that’s why relationship is so important in life. Taking care of each other till the end of life.

No that’s not true. True love means sharing your life with someone that accepts all of you. A real relationship is supposed to help enhance your life, not drag you down.

Loving someone doesn’t mean it has to be romantic.

BULLSHIT! Why would you be unhappy to make someone else happy? Lol

I’m glad he’s such a romantic and has shared himself with us through his books. Sad his marriage has ended.

It isn’t always a good thing cause you can fall in love with the wrong people

This is also what the ‘Cherish’ in marriage vows means. The woman promises to obey, but the man promises to cherish. To put her happiness and the good of both before his own desires.

Then why is he (Nicholas Sparks) divorced?!?!

To bad more people did not see it this way…. Seems to me the world is filled with selfish people.. If you find one like this… Never let them go.

As long as it goes both ways. Can’t always be one sided.

You in a relationship ?????????

Don’t entirely agree with this.. it’s again a one sided relationship. One is a giver while the other is a taker. No one should sacrifice there own happiness for others. Love in a relationship is an equal partnership. True love must be equal both ways.. only then it will work.

Sparks and his wife just got divorced, don’t take relationship advice from him

Only a true idealist can do it. This can only be applied in the ideal world where everything is in order like a machine. Expecting good in return is instinct. It is not a good thing to give yourself pain and degrade youself just to make other people happy. Simply keep one thing in your mind. You are not a joker to entertain everyone in this world. Know your worth.

Nope, I tryed it , don’t kid yourself you will miserable trying to make a fool happy .

Between Sparks, 50 Shades and Ed Sheeran, my life got destroyed 🙁

Yes, his happiness was more important than mine, so I dumped his ass

If someone’s happiness causes me pain. How is that love ?

That sounds like co-dependancy to me. Each need to be responsible for their own happiness. Sharing it with the other. Of course.