My kids and I have this kind if relationship. My daughter knows she can talk to me about everything without me judging her but to listen to her and give her advice. Open communication. I never had that with my mom growing up so I still don’t share things with her. I’ve been through a lot that she doesn’t know about.

Disagree. Too broad. Small problems can become big problems without proper intervention. You’re not their best friend, you’re their parent. Too many parents today bring their own parental baggage to the table and coddle their children into brats that feel over deserved. You can teach rules, instill proper discipline, and still have an open channel of discussion as the years go on.

I totally agree parents have to learn to listen and observe and give their children trust.

I’m exactly one of the people who neverrr ran to their parents for help, because they overreacted to EVERYTHING, and anything. I will try my best when I’m older as a parent NOT to do that. I want my kid(s) to be comfortable enough to approach me when they truly NEED me.

Even when you are that way with your children, there is always going to be some things they don’t tell you. And you don’t know until they are grown. Lol

No shit! Thats why I don’t open up to my mom or dad ever cause I always know how they react

Kids need to stop being such pussy. Son or daughter stop being bitches

Same for your spouse!!!! If you freak out over the small issues then your spouse DEFINITELY don’t wanna come to you over bigger issues!!!

Oh! well. Let the kids learn the hard way then. Life is eager to take over and spank their asses. Parents are not perfect.

Nothing worse then going to your parents for help when your in need and all you get back is put downs, screaming and arguments … The last thing you want to be thinking on top of your problems whether its a big or small issue, is that the ones you look upto the most and love so dearly see you as a failure and a let down in there eyes … To the parents out there, be understanding cause this world we live in is full of wrong ways, dead ends, hurt and pain, but that doesnt mean we have… Read more »

Stop buyin n spoiling ur kids n there won’t be no problems or the adult n there kids start acting like it

Exactly right. I could never ever open up to my parents, at this point they have no idea what I’ve been through. I thank them though, for showing me what not to do with my kids.

Not quite Sarah Peterson. Some of us were screamed at and spanked for things like accidentally spilling something or not doing so hot on a test. Or even accidentally breaking something. It’s not saying not to punish them…Just saying to watch HOW you react. My kids make “kid” mistakes and I do my best to think before reacting with rage and anger. Fear/respect of authority is different than fear of anger. I don’t want my kids hiding things just because they are afraid of my reaction. They still get spanked and punished…when the crime fits.

omw! that’s my parents. I’m in my 30’s and its still an issue 🙁

This is so true. And the truth hurts. I had to learn the hard way. I have three kiddos, 25, 23, and 15, and it took a while to learn that what works for one of your kids, might not work for the other. 43 and still learning how to parent. Good luck to all yall parents and kiddos out there?

I wish my mother can read this post. I feel like shutting her out of my life forever.

People are not being honest on here, NO ONE tells their parents absolutely everything they do wether they have a good or bad relationship. Ever family and situation is different, so what works for one family doesn’t always work for another. The most important thing to do for your child is love them, instill values in them, and to respect everyone. Parents do the best they can, and no one can do this parent thing perfect. The second most important thing is to always tell your kids you love them even when you are mad and disciplining them, everything else… Read more »

Exactly…and parents want to know why their kids don’t open up to anyone

If only my parents understood this.

Also, parents need to remember not to react out of fear. Sometimes when you are afraid for your child it can come out in anger towards them but in reality it is the parents fear that is causing that reaction. Better to stay calm and get a hold of emotions before continuing whatever it is needing to be talked about. The worst feeling is needing someone to talk to and knowing you cannot talk to your parent because they will react in anger instead of truly being there for you. Just thought I’d throw my 2 cents in.

This has worked for me for the last 20yrs with my kids! They still come to me with their problems and concerns because they know they can trust me. My job as their parent is not to judge, but to guide and teach.

But always be a parent first, a friend second