I feel what this is saying is a mate should listen to you and help you calm down. You have to go through your emotions and then relax. If someone is telling you to relax it is because they are uncomfortable with your feelings and aren’t in tune with you. When you vibe with your mate they take the trip with you in a sense and help guide you to becoming calm.

Relax lmao

It really depends why you’re upset though… Some girls will freak out over nothing and need to be brought back down to Earth.

Yeah I’m gonna unfollow this advice is wrong! I say it to my bf all the time when he’s feeling stressed I say it with love!

Chyeah right. I’m a major stress case. I get myself so worked up that if it wasn’t for my significant other reminding me to relax and take a step back sometimes I’d make myself and everyone around me crazy. Not everything needs be taken condescendingly…

True! What Muriah Baker said. You don’t tell people to relax when they are upset. You need to listen to them then communicate with them. That is how things work out. Telling them that shows that you don’t care, just making excuses to avoid the confrontations to have the conversation. People often are taught doing and saying wrong that makes things worse because they have not tried otherwise to make it better. Once they do it then they will realize how much it improves and makes themselves to feel better

It really does pisses me off when he says that and he’s the one who does stupid shit to get me all stressed out

RED FLAG

It depends . I think a mature person can identify and communicate that they feel very strongly but may be overreacting . If the dudes like just chill as in shut up I don’t wanna hear bout this as apposed to maybe take a moment to calm down for a bit because you’re yelling at me or something like that …. Yeah that could be total red flag it just depends on context . You are important & so are your feelings. However If you’re always freaking out though because you’re stressed and you know it, own up to it.… Read more »

I’m sorry, but this is probably the only post I haven’t agreed with from you.

LOL – I wish I saw this 19 years ago….

lol this is stupid

Or if they use the you are over reacting line

Sometimes relax is way of guy saying “dont worry abt it and dnt stress urself” i dnt agree on tht

Yea exactly continue to act irrational! 🙂 lol

If they say relax and mean it negatively then yeah this makes sense. If they say it to genuinely to calm you down then this makes no sense. Js

Ever notice, the one telling you to calm down is the one who ticked you off in the first place?

Yea,that crap urkes me….like im not supposed to have feelings or something!

I think it’s the one who can hold you and relax you
Sometimes all you need is a hug or a shoulder etc

You all need to relax!

Or he thinks you should calm down, get your mind together, and then deal with whatever it is. Nothing good ever comes from acting while upset.

Or “chill” I hate that shit!

As a survivor of domestic violence, NEVER let someone make you feel like you can’t express your thoughts or feelings! It’s the beginning of a power struggle

Dated someone for 3.5 yrs who would say this anytime there was a problem instead of dealing with it. I left him so he can relax all he wants now
:p

Sometimes I think this page should be called “Bad Relationship Advice.” This is pretty stupid. All situations aren’t the same. Sometimes I need someone to tell me to relax because I’m being irrational.

Terrible advice in my opinion