Truth is, Everyone has to learn how to love their partner in the way that he or she needs to be shown love. No matter the gender, you can and will learn how to show your partner love, if you really want to make them feel loved and appreciated. Truly loving someone is something beyond a feeling, it is a choice that you make day in and day out, and choosing to give your partner what THEY need is a huge part of that choice and a huge part of successful relationships. PS. There is no success in giving 50%50%,… Read more »

I was once this insensitive man. Hopefully, the man can recognize their failures, learn from them, and not do them again.

Am I the only one who had to read that a few times to get it?

You teach people how you want to be treated. You shouldn’t have to wait for someone to treat you a certain way. Either they love you and treat you with respect or they don’t.

This is exactly what I just went through!!! I just wanted him to be how he was at the beginning. I didn’t nag and tried to be patient. Unfortunately he never will be that way again and so I had to move on with my life. Sucks but I’ve got to look out for myself. ?

It’s so sad but true..that’s why we have the saying you never know what you have till it’s gone.

But if you’re in the right kind of relationship, it shouldn’t matter in what way you’re being loved as long as the you know the man is really showing that he loves you. If you wait around for what you’re exactly looking for, you’re going to be miserable and lonely for the rest of your life. I don’t know what kind of way my girlfriend wants to be loved, but I do love her and I try to show it as much as possible. As far as I’m aware, I’m doing it right enough. She sees the effort. She knows… Read more »

I have a different take on this. When we are in the beginning of a relationship we tend to see whatever want to see and not what actually is. And we our on our best behavior and do not act in an authentic way. After a while we see the real person. At that point it’s best to accept how the other person expresses their love for you. If you can’t then its better to end things than to wish for things that can never be or have the inability to recognize what is.

To bad my stupid husband doesn’t understand that. Sorry it’s to late. I’m done

I live by these words “Just because they don’t love you the way you want them to, it doesn’t mean they don’t love you.”

Who writes this b.s.? “Learn” to love?? What? Love is not a learned behavior. You cant teach an emotion. If they dont “love” you the way you want, you have to move on to someone who will.

Uh can we take a look at the insensitive woman who string guys along too? Lol, you can’t split guys and woman and make one seem more “sensitive” than the other. Woman can be ruthless too. Just saying.

You can teach him. By loving him that way and saying how you feel not yelling or nagging.

Nt true..it still cn work again..just hv to be the right person meeting eachother which is rare case..

Some times all it takes is communication!!!!! And for people to not only say how they feel, but have some passion behind the words! Cause if u just say things here and there and act like things don’t bother u…it will be disregarded as nonsense! Some times we as man or woman need a wake up call!! Some times it was never meant to be!! Some times it was what was appreciated before Became expected!!! What ever the case maybe just know that if u have a great partner in life there will never be another one the same… So… Read more »

It certainly works both ways, but I can’t help but think how women naturally give in more. We’ll read the self help books, seek advice from others, change certain behaviors or ways, etc. but a man will let his ego get in the way. He won’t read books on how to win or understand a woman’s heart, he won’t seek advice from a trustworthy woman, he’ll just consider our actions and cries for attention, consistency, and reassurance unreasonable and unjustified. It’s tough!

You can teach a man to love you. It’s called not being a clingy bitch. The more one begs for attention the less they get. Nobody likes pests.

This is 100% true! I have always been open with my needs/wants instead of playing stupid ‘figure me out’ games. Seems regardless of how much most males love their woman they will do it THEIR WAY. And when we express dislike at how things diminish we get the usual ‘you’re insecure/needy’ etc

It does go both ways!

Some of us guys learn before it’s too late. (y)

Why is it that the guy has to change the way he loves?…… What if he’s a really nice guy, and she’s the insensitive one?….. Why are the guys always the ones being pegged as “insensitive”?

This kind of made my heart hurt.

When she’s given you everything and you break her…..you cannot come back, no matter how hard she tries to take you back…