When you use ultimatums in a relationship you know you gonna lose

Samantha an Ultimatum is when you give someone the choice between you and something else. For example, it’s either me or her, you choose.

Plus, only a Sith deals in absolutes.

What is a ultimatum ????

Learned this the hard way… -_-

by the way boundaries and ultamtoms are 2 entirely different things….boundaries are healthy but ultimatums aren’t. Ultamatums may appear to work in the beginning until they realize it wasn’t they’re idea or their wil And LEPORPDS DON’T CHANGE SPOTS and PATTERNS ALWAYS REPEAT THEMSELVES

ultimatum is like putting your man on a dog leash……and forcing him to obey….that’s the wrong way to do it….you have to instead let him know it wont work that way and then if he’s for the relationship he will make chages and also think it was all his idea! ha

sometimes you have too

Da faq is that?

lol true

Give them what they ask for, that is in reality what am ultimatum is-a request!

My ex used ultimatums sometimes, and it nearly always backfired..

That is so very true.

Wow Tina, you got that right.

Well, I never believed in them, however, when raising child(ren) sometimes they come in handy, LOL

sometimes ultimatums are necessary

Yes and no. This is super tricky. Only expert lovers can use these for the good of the relationship. I’ve only used one. I’ll tell you why. I have done what I was supposed to do to be a great man to her. And I’ve also forgiven her many times. Then it was enough. I told her if things do not change, I will leave and you will not hear from me again. I need support in this relationship. She still hasn’t done much better. But it made her realize I’m serious about this relationship.

I think sometimes they are necessary.

Been there done that!!! Yep so true!!!

Dang right!!

Options Yes….Ultimatums NO

Ultimatums should never be used in a relationship, no one hears the positive and only focuses on the negative.

I disagree. You need to set standards and boundaries. There needs to be a set consequence if an action occurs.

Unless its a sexy ultimatum like,” You will Marry me and be with me forever for else!”