I’ve had to tell myself this the last couple of weeks … I’ve been saying … ” they are just busy and just don’t have time” but then realize I seemed to be the only one with “time”. Makes me sad I invested more time in them then they have for me.

Right, because otherwise it would be called stalking. Lol

I will keep checking even when there aren’t!! I’ll do what comfort me, I’ll do my part 🙂

Shoot… I would never check on anyone then if I followed this logic.

This should not be posted…. It increases atrocity… Let the people knw tht there’s need for forgiveness… Not Wickedness for wickedness

It’s a two way street. They can drive your way and you can drive their way. Just don’t drive all the way. Meet halfway

thats hard..don’t expect other people to be the way you are..but only extend yourself so far,,before u back the hell off..hmmm

I’d advise the exact opposite. Be a friend, regardless… That’s love. This meme is proposing something conditional and therefore, illusion. My 2 cents.

What a brilliant piece of writing, Stephanie. My situation has been a year now. Why can’t my heart accept your wise words, do as you say and move on? My heart is still ruling my head and I can’t seem to stop it. From a reasonably intelligent and previously very strong woman.

Yes, love these words. I feel checked out all the time here in this country. It disturbs me so much in functioning well/

Very true. Even if you can’t help it ylu need to stop it. At the end, you’ll be the one to get hurt.

I’m checking on anybody alviar request to be Thursday and Friday cause homegirl Monday thru Wednesday I guess she Knows homegirl complain and know lots peeps around their I feel alviar is afraid getting fired ! You so how u judge me without asking

Love is not enough, we need to have more self respect and stop making a place in our lives for someone who thinks so little of us. I am struggling with this, but their silence is a very clear and definitive “I could care less about you” so I am going to let go and move on. We all need to guard our hearts and believe there will be someone who will chase us, contact us, and make us priority. Good luck to you all!

Very hard to do. I’m learning not everyone is like me. Most are selfish, even when you ask how they are it’s Almost always just about them. Rarely certain people will show some kind of caring if barley at all.

Why would you allow what another person does or doesn’t do affect how you conduct yourself? If you are the type of person who checks on people, check on people. But I guess if you’re petty & only check on people looking for an reaction then you should continue on being petty.

I don’t necessarily agree or disagree. If you care about someone (friend, family or romantic partner). Check on them. You don’t know someone else’s struggles or life. No, don’t sacrifice yourself or your heart for someone who obviously doesn’t care. But I cannot say how many times my life could have been changed if someone, anyone, had “checked on me”. Maybe it makes a difference now, maybe that person looks back months from now after their struggle is over and can look back and see who cared even the slightest, maybe one day return the favor.

If it gives you peace to check, check often. Not everyone is in a position to check back or even initiate contact; you may save someone without knowing.

Silence is not always lack of concern for you. If they are people you truly love, and who you know love you, you should always continue to reach out. so many reasons for this, don’t put it in a lump. <3

Some people don’t check in constantly because they don’t want to feel like they are harrasing you. If you reach out and they don’t respond or it takes forever, that’s different. As much as I wish I had more time to send a personal kessage to every friend I have, I flat out don’t. I own a business, full time student, have the house, the guy, the dogs, the parents, etc. Sorry if I am unable to create 26 hours in a day to chit chat. I still love my friends but I live the life I’ve created as well.

Did this awhile ago…reason I got very few good friends I talk to. I don’t even have family I talk to on a regular besides my momma& grandma. But you best believe they’re blowing me up if they’re not invited to something. Lol

Is it really a genuine love or act of kindness if you expect something in return? Jesus commanded that if someone hurts us to turn the other cheek and care for them regardless. It’s not about expecting for someone to love us in return. It’s about being there for people when they need you the most, even if they don’t return the love for you. Most likely the ones that blatantly ignore or treat you bad are going through something themselves and their behavior has nothing to do with you but that they are disappointed in themselves. Don’t assume that… Read more »

Did this with a few friends who I was always texting, they never keep in touch or make an effort with me now. It’s not a healthy or fair friendship if it’s all one sided. Learning to appreciate who’s worth my time.

I cant stop it. Cause even if you dont know or if we only have talked through phone once. I swear I want you and need you. I really would like to be with you but it seems you dont feel the same way ???