I strongly agree here… I spent 14 years in a marriage that I was the only one present & dedicated.

However, there needs to be an understanding that at times one or the other will carry things. As long as it doesn’t stay one sided.

Here we can say that….. relationship rules.

If U R in a relationship and U got a problem with some of the things how his doin’ it or the way how he living his life……? Leave honey, cause U never gonna change his style!! It’s gonna end up in seperation and a lot of time was wasted!!!

I’m tired of one sided relationships. I’m always the one working my ass off to keep things together. Smh!

I’m coming out of a 12 year marriage and towards the end, everything was my fault. He said he cheated on me repeatedly because I am very sick and have been for 2 years. He was upset that I laid in bed a lot and didn’t cook or clean like I used to. Excuse me, but I am in the bathroom most of the day getting sick and vomiting. I am on high doses of morphine for the pain. Pardon me for me for not doing cartwheels and back flips for his stupid ass. Jesus! Lol. Oh, and he couldn’t… Read more »

So true, when one of them constantly listens to all the other outside voices from friends and family that have nothing to do with any of it. You might as well play russian roulette. It would be more productive with your time.

Yup! Don’t tell me you’re in it and will fight if you just will give up after 8 months back together! Thanks for throwing away almost 5 years and our kids don’t even know yet. You’re letter said nothing about trust, you hurt me everyday and you don’t even know it. You act like you might care, I can’t even tell

A relationship with myself works wonderfully.

It sounds great, of course. But in reality, we all have some sort of internal problem that may keep us from being the best bf/gf we can be. That doesn’t mean it’s right, but it’s kind of inevitable as a human. However, finding someone to ride those emotions with is most important.
I say this with a focus on minor things, not things that could potentially hurt your partner.
You can be 100% in it, and still have some sort of internal issue. It’s how you deal with it that matters!

Absolutely! Going thru some things now “internally” & if…no, when we get thru this, I know we will be able to get thru anything together!! ????

very true. A relationship takes 2 not one. It’s is a unselfish act to share your time with that person. But it does turn into a selfish act when u expect that other person to figure it all out on their own. Communication is the key.

I am sure you are not ready yet nor you have made any decision. You are still beating same old bush . When you make decisions then talk to me something new

So very true. ..and for sure have mutual communication. ..talk to one another. ..not texting. ..and it does takes two to be in a relationship. ..and to keep it alive and to have a future together. ..Amen

… I have a strong feeling that you don’t know shit about being in an actual relationship and your whole page is just you making shit up all the time.

A relationship can only work and last if GOD is at the center of that relationship, GOD first, you second

I can’t be the one who awyz pickup pieces and put them together when we fall apart,play your part or get out if its nt worth your effort,ladies and gents stop hurting urself while holding on something dat dnt belong wth u hoping things would change,u’r killing the last bit of love u hv inside u

It takes two people who truly care about each other to make a relationship work. ??

If one person knows that they are not giving 100% to their partner in their relationship, and they back out of the relationship so they can become healthier for themselves and for the relationship in general, I think this is a good thing….sadly it is being taken as a negative thing and it hurts!

Ex surely has internal problems he never has taken time out to fix his stupid fucked up head.. Always cheats and jumps into another marraige. I was his 3rd idiot. Hes married idiot #4 now only months within knowing her and the end of our 10 yr marraige. Hes 43 and 4 marraiges… Always thinks a different woman will fix his depressed head.. His brother age 33 same thing, on wife #4