This. Very true and a great book all couples should read. Loved reading all the comments as most have valid points. Definitely takes two people

When mutual, must to be amazing.
Lucky for those who have that kinda love!

….until you begin to feel taken advantage of….it should be mutual and when it isn’t, you should speak up or step out…..

I agree you always are one of my favorite homegirl now I know why cuz you’re smart girl.you What you talking about that’s a good word of advice girl I love your life

Yea, but the real world doesn’t work like that if they sacrifice themselves for you to love the way you need to be loved and you sacrifice yourself to love them the way they need to be loved then your stuck in a place where the both of your AREN’T who you really are because that person.

I hope men would realize this. They are often selfish and let their pride, ego, and immaturity ruin the relationship. Women gets tired too. 🙁

It’s too much of a mystery to me sorry. I have no clue how to identify how other people want to be loved. It seems to me that love is simple not all this “love language” nonsense. But what do I know.

Coz,true love is unconditional.f the feeling is real it flaws in a natural way.no need to fake your action and f u love the person dont need to ask or find something that suits your taste.just love,love,love.

How true.. ? we must take the time and learn our partners love language so we can meet their needs and love them the way they need as well as the way we want to love them…. this is where disappointment comes from miscommunication and understanding ?

Some ppl dont even know wat or how it feel 2 b loved. Wat then? Some believe that beating them is love…
4 me ill treat u the way i would like 2 b treated. Some ppl u gat 2 teach them…sigh

Yet you wonder why I treat you the way I do your deserve so much more than I can give I love more than anything your my earth, sun, moon and the stars.

When you put yourself FIRST in all that you do…This concept escapes you!! And you resent the person you love for trying to explain this!

Bingo! This is why so many relationships fail. You have to communicate and learn what makes your significant other feel loved. What works for you may or may not work for them. Some people feel loved when you give them small gifts (like something you made) where someone else might feel loved when you wrap your arms around them and another person might even feel more loved when you express yourself in words. You have to figure out what your person’s love language is and learn to speak it. Not only will you be able to more accurately show your… Read more »

Most true… and, it may take a lifetime together, learning to get it just right… I’m all in #ilovemywife #blessed #doingmybest #eternallove #beautifulwife #mylove

If they can’t accept the way we want to love then they aren’t the one for us…love is accepting people as they are and you show it however you see fit.. Nobody loves the same…lmao

One more time how THEY need to be loved and just to make sure we get it… how THEY need to be loved.

This is essential to understand if your goal is to show someone you care have relationship as a goal.

Live is selfless and if you care about someone you tailor how you give and present love.

So true. Understanding the other person is the key way of showing care and growing unconditional love. ❤️

No! You’re so damn wrong. Love is selfish. When you love, your partner is a part of you. You’ll do anything and everything for them regardless of the circumstances. When you put in so much of yourself, why wouldn’t you expect the same from them? Love is a symbiotic relationship. You need to give as well as take for it to be stable and strong. That’s why I always say, “Love hard or not at all”.

If we are talking about a romantic relationship here…. if you don’t receive love back & you are consistently putting in effort with no return, it’s one sided & will never work. Don’t be foolish with this lovey dovey crap. If you truly believe you must be totally selfless, you are setting yourself up to being taken advantage of. Don’t be someone’s floor mat.

Wish my husband would see it this way. He thinks I’m trying to change him instead of looking at how my love language needs to be met. There has been a lot of hurt and things are now in limbo. Love languages are so important to know and work on.

This is why time is required to really get to know your partner, learn about thier likes and dislikes and respond in terms of ‘them’. When in a relationship there is no room for selfishness!

Unless you love a narcissist or sociopath.. you can give them all the love in the world… NEVER expect any love in return.. why? because they are not capable of it!

Yes! I’m trying. I think it is vital for any long term couple, or couple wanting to get married, to find out their love languages are and learn about what that means for each other. VITAL. But it takes both willing to learn, grow together and put in the work!